How to Choose a Marriage Counselor – More Helpful Advice
by admin on Mar.30, 2010, under Saving Marriage
Finding the right marriage counselor that you are compatible with is as important as making the decision to seek professional help. Afterall, you don’t want to trust the success of your relationship with just anyone. There are many marriage counselors available to you but you must find one that you trust and respect. If you don’t then it is not likely that they will be able to help you. Here is more helpful advice on how to choose a marriage counselor.
1. Begin by getting recommendations from friends and family that have used a marriage counselor in the past. If you trust their opinion then they can give you honest feedback about their experience with their particular counselor. Try to ask questions that will give you specific answers without prying into their personal situation or details. You may want to know about the counselors personality, his temperament, his ability to listen and communicate, etc.
2. You have to trust your marriage counselor. If in your search for a counselor you find something that you don’t like or that bothers you, you should cross that person off of your list. If you don’t completely trust your marriage counselor you won’t be able to be completely honest with them and your progress will be hindered.
3. If you find that you and your partner cannot amicably search for a marriage counselor together then each of you can search separately. Once you have both researched a handful of counselors then you can sit down together and compare notes. If you find that you have a few counselors with similiar qualities then put those on your list to interview. By doing the initial search separately you may save yourself some stress.
It is important to understand that just because friends and family had success with a counselor, the same may not work for you. You may have different needs and expectations. You may not have the same trust or compatibility in a marriage counselor just because someone else did. Take the time to do your research until you find someone that you are comfortable with.
